9 of the Best Kept Marriage Secrets of All Time
With the hustle and bustle of life it’s easy to forget that marriage truly is a special experience- and it’s not a given. There are plenty of people who never marry- or do, only to have it end in heartbreak. Finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is a gift, so don’t forget to treasure it day in and day out.
To help you do that, here are 9 of the best kept secrets that will keep your marriage fresh, healthy and fulfilling…
Marriage Is… Absolutely Beautiful
Yes, it’s also hard. And frustrating. And at times, exhausting. But most of the time- and even in those difficult moments– having your partner to love and lean on is always better than any day without them.
And perhaps, that IS the beauty of marriage: the fact that you can have this individual that frustrates you over insignificant things (honestly, just put the dishes away!) but in the end, you still know there’s a connection between the two of you that can never be broken.
Forget “Happy Wife, Happy Life”- It’s Respect That Makes a Happy Home
And, of course, it goes both ways.
The best way to honor your spouse is to treat them with the respect they deserve. Don’t put them down or expect unrealistic things from one another. Instead, shower them with love, support their big ideas and always strive to be their source of strength.
Never Stop Dating One Another
This goes well beyond the normal “romantic celebrations” of Valentine’s Day, anniversaries and birthdays. Make it a point to keep dating one another well past the “I Do’s” so that you always feel cherished, wanted and appreciated by one another.
While gifts, cards and celebrations are nice on days that they are “expected” (like a birthday), there’s just something about a love note, surprise dates or “just because” gift when they least expect it to brighten any day.
Keep Your Marriage Private
Listen up because this is important! Your marriage is YOUR MARRIAGE, so please, strive to make sure that the intimate details stay between you and your spouse. This includes keeping tiny fights to yourself, hashing out your frustrations to others and telling one another’s secrets.
And yes, this absolutely includes social media! Don’t make the mistake of blasting your loved one or marital frustrations on social platforms for the world to see. Remember, once it’s out there, it’s out there FOREVER.
On the other side of the coin, it’s also a good idea to keep the reasons your marriage works to yourselves. While everyone loves a beautiful love story, your “secret sauce” should be yours to keep and hold private.
Remember the Reason You Wed In the First Place
When the going gets tough – and it will at times because that’s life – hold onto the reasons you married your spouse in the first place. Talk about the little things that keep the flame burning bright, such as: the first time you met, first kiss, proposal and favorite vacations. All of these moments are integral parts of your love journey together and should be remembered and cherished as often as possible.
Master the Subtle Art of Lovemaking
Don’t be shy my friend, making love is a beautiful part of your relationship as man and wife. Use these intimate moments to connect, learn more about one another’s needs and truly BE together.
Go Beyond Touching To Show Your Love
…You can also show your love through non-physical actions as well- and trust me, it’s equally as important. So how do you do this?
You can learn how to express your love to one another by:
- Sending a sexy text message to your spouse…
- Exchange subtle yet sensual glances with one another…
- Wink or blow a kiss across a crowded room just for them…
- Leave a love note where only they will find it..
- Be adventurous together…
I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at just how much energy you can build between the two of you without ever stepping foot in the bedroom.
Create a Treasure Hunt For Your Love
Talk about fun!
Channel your inner child with a treasure hunt for your spouse and enjoy the excitement while they find each hidden gem along the way. Unlike ones for kids that lead to candy and dollar store toys, however, the adult version leads your partner to find love notes or clues to exciting date nights that will no doubt end just as great as they started.
Again, this is all about keeping the fun in your marriage alive- and with a treasure hunt, you better believe the bounty that awaits is worth the search!
Keep Christ the Focus of Your Marriage
And finally, of course, I saved the best for last!
When Jesus Christ is the center of your marriage, there’s nothing that the two of you cannot overcome together. Having a marriage based in faith is absolutely the best way to journey together through life’s ups and downs as husband and wife. Through scriptures we often find some of our best tools for coping with difficult decisions, while the community that serves Christ together can also act as a beautiful support system in times of doubt.
The bottom line: when Christ is the focus of your marriage, you are always prepared to thrive.
To love, always,
Lawrence + Nathalie
Professional bio: Love’s Legato is a Christian-based, husband-and-wife marriage ministry dedicated to taking ordinary newlyweds with extraordinary love stories and capture their one-of-a-kind message into a sustainable and profitable marital ministry. To find out more, visit www.loveslegato.com. We cannot wait to learn more about you and the vision you hope to bring forth fruit in your marriage today! Mark 10:9